I have to confess, it’s been a long time since I got into writing mode. Since the summer, my client numbers have ramped up considerably, especially more and more couples (and individuals, of course) coping with neuro-diversity, my speciality being ADHD. A person with ADHD finds life extremely challenging. Being the partner of a person …
I guess ideally, you would like to be both friends and lovers! That would indeed be wonderful, however, so many clients come to me and say “We are great friends and we have the same values. We do love each other, but we’re not in love anymore and we have almost no intimacy or sex. …
It’s been a beautiful summer around these parts (Folkestone, Kent) and I hope the same for you, wherever you are situated. And it’s got pretty chilly, all of a sudden. So, it’s just the right time to get more cosy and intimate together as the Autumn leaves start to fall….isn’t there a song in there …
It’s good to be back with you again. I’m back in a different kind of way though. I want to tell you more stories about the couples I see and to inspire you with what they’re learning and bringing into their lives together. They are definitely turning relationship difficulties around. It never ceases to amaze …
Acceptance of your partner, and acceptance of your sexual connection, can bring more closeness and loving into your relationship. The key is recognising what truly cannot, or is unlikely to change in your partner, and finding inner acceptance with that.
The day of putting LOVE first is almost here! Living your life with an awareness of love is not a nebulous thing, today, tomorrow or any day. Love is about staying in connection through words, sharing your emotions and physical touch. That all equals intimacy. Staying in connection creates intimacy. Intimacy is LOVE. You can …
If ever there was a time of year when being extra loving, warm, huggy and staying in touch with one another, needs to be top of the friends, couples and family agenda… this is IT! In the run up to the festive season, we can easily lose the plot of staying connected and intimate with …
This story is about a real couple and illustrates something that comes up quite frequently in my session room. These are the kinds of phrases I often hear: “She doesn’t really get me or what’s going on for me.” “He’s always immersed in his own stuff… I feel second best.” “I don’t actually feel seen …
Is this happening to you two? Have you got so used to being a family, which, of course, is wonderful and rewarding but could also mean that you forget what it’s like to be just the two of you? Remember….once you were a couple?! You had lots of time together for dates and yummy cuddles …
Spring is in the air and many couples have been talking to me about sex in their relationship or the lack of it. As many of you know, one of my themes is about sex being “the icing on the cake” in a loving, intimate relationship. In fact, sex can even be enhanced by NOT being the thing to …