A strange question maybe? Does sex need anything? Shouldn’t it be what you two need in order to be sexual?. Well Surprise-Surprise
SEX HAS NEEDS!!
Find out what that’s all about by watching my video, with your sexual partner, of course….
Often couples think that having sex means they are in a successful relationship. So, they may put efforts into being sexual together, even if their relationship is struggling emotionally and is disconnected. But having sex when there is disconnection can be a rather empty experience.
I don’t want to stereotype, but many men can be inclined to think of sex as THE thing that’s needed to create reconnection. Sometimes it may indeed happen that way around. But, more often, it falls flat (no pun intended!) because there isn’t the closeness and intimacy present that many women need in order to feel like being sexual.
It’s funny but women need the same things that sex needs! Yes, check out the video and you will see what I mean.
I was once at a workshop on Love and Intimacy when the facilitator said: Men……here is the secret to happy relationships: Find out what she wants and give it to her.
OK, that was a long time ago and nowadays he says: Everyone…find out what your partner needs and give it to them.
It may sound a bit basic or even banal, but I go along with the idea that one of the most loving things we can do for each other is find out what the other one loves, wants and needs and create those things for them. Bliss! Especially if we are doing it for each other.
So, watch my video to find out what SEX ITSELF NEEDS….he or she is a wise entity with thousands of years experience after all!
If you are having issues with sex and intimacy, as you can tell, I am happy to talk with you about it in safety, with openness, integrity and sometimes humour.
With love to you and your relationship