That’s a strange question, I know. It’s based on my idea that it’s often helpful to give things a shape, for example, shaping the time you spend together. Especially if you feel you don’t intentionally get together much as a couple, I suggest shaping it a bit, keeping it simple, with things like: let’s meet …
If ever there was a time of year when being extra loving, warm, huggy and staying in touch with one another, needs to be top of the friends, couples and family agenda… this is IT! In the run up to the festive season, we can easily lose the plot of staying connected and intimate with …
This story is about a real couple and illustrates something that comes up quite frequently in my session room. These are the kinds of phrases I often hear: “She doesn’t really get me or what’s going on for me.” “He’s always immersed in his own stuff… I feel second best.” “I don’t actually feel seen …
Here I am again, having moved a few weeks ago and what a time-consuming thing that is. I haven’t forgotten you, but have been absorbed with juggling storage, painting walls, creating a counselling room and lots more. Phew! At last a little breathing space. I hope you’ve had a good summer, ideally with time to …
Spring is in the air and many couples have been talking to me about sex in their relationship or the lack of it. As many of you know, one of my themes is about sex being “the icing on the cake” in a loving, intimate relationship. In fact, sex can even be enhanced by NOT being the thing to …
You may remember this topic and video (which you can view below) from a year ago. Well, it seems to me that it’s an issue that keeps on coming back in the relationship world, and finds it’s way into my couple therapy sessions frequently. “Looking after that very precious relationship of yours, which you have created together, is vital.” …
Hello lovely Couple! Feeling criticised by your partner can be a common occurrence and many couples tell me about this, usually feeling it gets in their way of staying in loving connection. It’s a tricky issue. We are all human and life can get fast and busy with our words coming out at speed, especially …