Hello everyone,
I’m wondering how you are all doing in your partner relationships, as we transition towards having a real outside life again.
I’m noticing how strange it feels to suddenly have events planned IN THE DIARY! Weekends are taking on a new look… birthday parties, lunches in gardens, getting on the train to London! Oh my goodness, whatever next!? I’m finding it rather scary as well as exciting.
And how will our relationships manage the transition? I don’t know about you but, having been holed up with my hubby Bob for over a year with our lie-ins and lazy Sundays undisturbed by the outside world, it’s becoming ALL GO on the horizon now and I don’t want our relationship to be in shock and lose itself!
Perhaps I’m being a bit over the top worrying about this but I do seem to be seeing all kinds of connection disturbances in many of my client couples. It seems that when they were mostly just the two of them or with their kids, they didn’t have to work very hard at staying connected. They were just there with each other and all too easily got into rather unhelpful patterns of not bothering to be consciously connected emotionally or physically. It’s as if the familiarity of being in each other’s spaces all the time, knocked out their creative energy to actually CONNECT with one another meaningfully.
This is not everyone, of course, Some have done a terrific job of keeping their special time together going, giving each other treats of candle-lit dinners, massages, music and wine evenings, regularly sitting together and sharing their passions and dreams and wonderful walks in nature and many other creative ideas.
Just to clarify, I’m not at all saying that we need to be earnestly and seriously connected all the time. I’m definitely not up for that. I believe we can be connecting wonderfully with fun chats, watching films on TV while cuddled on the sofa, lovely hugs or spontaneous activities and doing projects together. And, ideally some sensual and sexual delights in the mix as well.
I guess it’s all down to how much we both value our relationship and how motivated we are to nurture and feed it regularly (just like we do with our plants!)
In the face of having a social life again with real people and being able to shop till we drop and all sorts of other distractions, which most of us have been longing for, how will our relationships adjust?
Let’s have a bit of a conversation about this. I would love to hear what’s going on for you and your relationship in your transition back to normality, whatever that is! Leave a comment below!
With love to you and your relationship
Priya 💞