Even though many couples in lockdown are actually spending more time together than ever, many tell me they are feeling very separate from one another and definitely not feeling like a loving team of two. What happened to the coupleness part? Where did it go?
Acceptance of your partner, and acceptance of your sexual connection, can bring more closeness and loving into your relationship. The key is recognising what truly cannot, or is unlikely to change in your partner, and finding inner acceptance with that.
The current pandemic has put a lot of pressure on partner relationships. In lockdown, relationships can be more intense, with more frustrations and arguments. Or they can be rather unaware and shallow if you are avoiding one another, or avoiding difficult issues. So, I thought it would be useful to flag some of the ways …
The day of putting LOVE first is almost here! Living your life with an awareness of love is not a nebulous thing, today, tomorrow or any day. Love is about staying in connection through words, sharing your emotions and physical touch. That all equals intimacy. Staying in connection creates intimacy. Intimacy is LOVE. You can …
That’s a strange question, I know. It’s based on my idea that it’s often helpful to give things a shape, for example, shaping the time you spend together. Especially if you feel you don’t intentionally get together much as a couple, I suggest shaping it a bit, keeping it simple, with things like: let’s meet …
If ever there was a time of year when being extra loving, warm, huggy and staying in touch with one another, needs to be top of the friends, couples and family agenda… this is IT! In the run up to the festive season, we can easily lose the plot of staying connected and intimate with …
This story is about a real couple and illustrates something that comes up quite frequently in my session room. These are the kinds of phrases I often hear: “She doesn’t really get me or what’s going on for me.” “He’s always immersed in his own stuff… I feel second best.” “I don’t actually feel seen …
Spring is in the air and many couples have been talking to me about sex in their relationship or the lack of it. As many of you know, one of my themes is about sex being “the icing on the cake” in a loving, intimate relationship. In fact, sex can even be enhanced by NOT being the thing to …
Recently, Bob and I had the pleasure of attending the wedding of dear friends of ours. They have been together nine years and it felt so special that they had reached a place of honouring their relationship with a wonderful creative ceremony, expressing their love and commitment to one another. Marriage isn’t for everyone of course …
Hello again. Many couples, sadly, are like ships that pass in the night, literally sailing by one another in a rush. Kids off to school, back home, rush to this class or that event etc. WHOA!…. let’s pause for a moment…..when and how do you manage to hug one another? And if you do actually …