Do you sometimes forget you can actually CHOOSE to be a certain way with your partner? You may need to slow down first and take a breath, a deep breath or four! This gives you a bit of breathing space (oh, I just realised where that expression comes from!), to ask yourself how you want …
We are coming up to the holiday season, a time when we hope for peace, and togetherness with those we love….and fun! However, all around us, there is uncertainty, fear and lack of integrity. So much that we cannot easily sit with. I struggle with reading the news because it’s either crazy or distressing, but …
There is nothing more important for the two of you than connection. It’s the vital ingredient that holds you in love and togetherness, even when the going gets tough.
I can’t fail to notice how many couples of late, who have sessions with me, are struggling with arguments in their relationships. They seem to be erupting all over the place, like volcanos! I find the volcano idea a helpful analogy and it seems my clients do too. A volcano can be dormant for a long time or be pretty active and explode regularly.
I’m wondering how you are all doing in your partner relationships, as we transition towards having a real outside life again. How will our relationships manage the transition?
You’ve been in each other’s pockets for a year now and Valentine’s is winging its way to you! This is still a most challenging year and it’s impossible not to have your primary relationship affected in some way for better or worse; that’s for sure. Whatever is going on for you both, I want to offer you this small but significant heart-opener that has the potential to change your relationship massively.
If ever there was a time of year when being loving, warm and huggy needs to be top of your relationship agenda… this is IT! My Festive Intimacy Curve gives you some reminders to help you maintain the yummiest relationship possible with your special partner.
Even though many couples in lockdown are actually spending more time together than ever, many tell me they are feeling very separate from one another and definitely not feeling like a loving team of two. What happened to the coupleness part? Where did it go?
Acceptance of your partner, and acceptance of your sexual connection, can bring more closeness and loving into your relationship. The key is recognising what truly cannot, or is unlikely to change in your partner, and finding inner acceptance with that.
The current pandemic has put a lot of pressure on partner relationships. In lockdown, relationships can be more intense, with more frustrations and arguments. Or they can be rather unaware and shallow if you are avoiding one another, or avoiding difficult issues. So, I thought it would be useful to flag some of the ways …