Choose LOVE in your relationship!! - Priya Tourkow, Hythe, Kent

Do you sometimes forget you can actually CHOOSE to be a certain way with your partner?

You may need to slow down first and take a breath, a deep breath or four! This gives you a bit of breathing space (oh, I just realised where that expression comes from!), to ask yourself how you want to be. What do you want to say and how do you want to say it?

Could you choose to come from a place of love?
In my video, I give a personal example of choosing love in my relationship:

How to Choose Love when you are struggling with something

It seems to me that a big helper in this art of choosing love is to stay as heart-connected as possible. Our hearts are more emotionally driven than our brains. We need our brains, of course, a lot of the time, but our hearts serve us more when we are wanting to stay connected with our partners, especially if we are on tricky ground that could escalate into conflict all too fast.

So, the breathing space can enable you to tune into your heart and feel rather than think. Love is a feeling entity and speaking from there is a whole different world.

“I feel so sad that you’re struggling or “I’m feeling upset right now, but how we can we do this differently?

I know from experience, this isn’t easy as we can get so used to responding from a place of wrong assumptions, irritation, impatience, judgments and so many more rather destructive ways of communicating. These can be so habitual.
However, it’s also incredible how quickly, when we come from love, the energy and the atmosphere turns around so amazingly. It’s really worth the few moments it takes to pause, slow down and breathe deeply.
It’s a truly deepening, connecting gift you can CHOOSE to bring to your relationship.

Here’s a little exercise you can do together:

Keeping Our Love Alive

It’s vital to do all of this from a place of intention and authenticity. Take your time….no need to rush.

Make sure you have at least 45 mins of uninterrupted time together. Get comfy opposite one another.
Take a few breaths and take a good look at one another from a loving viewpoint.

Begin by taking it in turns to tell each other some things you love about one another. Mix them up…..some can be physical, some practical, some about your partner’s personality. Have some fun with this.

Then, each says what you would like to do more of in your relationship to keep your love alive. Choose just two things:
eg “I would like to listen to you more fully when you are sharing something with me….to keep our love alive”.
eg “I am going to ask how I can support you more often….to keep our love alive”.

Then each of you can have a request of your partner
eg “To keep our love alive….I would love it if you could come to bed with me and cuddle most nights”.
eg “To keep our love alive……I would love you to arrange an evening out for us once a month”.

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AN EXCITING PIECE of NEWS for the Spring!!

I am creating an online course for couples running for four evenings