I can’t fail to notice how many couples of late, who have sessions with me, are struggling with arguments in their relationships. They seem to be erupting all over the place, like volcanos! I find the volcano idea a helpful analogy and it seems my clients do too. A volcano can be dormant for a long time or be pretty active and explode regularly.
I’m wondering how you are all doing in your partner relationships, as we transition towards having a real outside life again. How will our relationships manage the transition?
You’ve been in each other’s pockets for a year now and Valentine’s is winging its way to you! This is still a most challenging year and it’s impossible not to have your primary relationship affected in some way for better or worse; that’s for sure. Whatever is going on for you both, I want to offer you this small but significant heart-opener that has the potential to change your relationship massively.
If ever there was a time of year when being loving, warm and huggy needs to be top of your relationship agenda… this is IT! My Festive Intimacy Curve gives you some reminders to help you maintain the yummiest relationship possible with your special partner.
Even though many couples in lockdown are actually spending more time together than ever, many tell me they are feeling very separate from one another and definitely not feeling like a loving team of two. What happened to the coupleness part? Where did it go?
Acceptance of your partner, and acceptance of your sexual connection, can bring more closeness and loving into your relationship. The key is recognising what truly cannot, or is unlikely to change in your partner, and finding inner acceptance with that.
The current pandemic has put a lot of pressure on partner relationships. In lockdown, relationships can be more intense, with more frustrations and arguments. Or they can be rather unaware and shallow if you are avoiding one another, or avoiding difficult issues. So, I thought it would be useful to flag some of the ways …
The day of putting LOVE first is almost here! Living your life with an awareness of love is not a nebulous thing, today, tomorrow or any day. Love is about staying in connection through words, sharing your emotions and physical touch. That all equals intimacy. Staying in connection creates intimacy. Intimacy is LOVE. You can …
That’s a strange question, I know. It’s based on my idea that it’s often helpful to give things a shape, for example, shaping the time you spend together. Especially if you feel you don’t intentionally get together much as a couple, I suggest shaping it a bit, keeping it simple, with things like: let’s meet …
If ever there was a time of year when being extra loving, warm, huggy and staying in touch with one another, needs to be top of the friends, couples and family agenda… this is IT! In the run up to the festive season, we can easily lose the plot of staying connected and intimate with …