That’s a strange question, I know. It’s based on my idea that it’s often helpful to give things a shape, for example, shaping the time you spend together. Especially if you feel you don’t intentionally get together much as a couple, I suggest shaping it a bit, keeping it simple, with things like:
let’s meet on the sofa for a catch up at 9, or let’s snuggle up and watch that film after we’ve each done some individual tasks….see you there!
For a reminder of Shaping, see the video here.
As we’ve just begun a fresh New Year, how about taking a look at the shape of your relationship as it is now and how you would like it to shape up going forward into 2020.
Here are a few questions (Priya style) that you could use as a guideline for taking a look at this together. And don’t forget to make sure you set aside special time (or shape it in!) to have that all-important conversation or maybe several conversations.
How well are we each doing at contributing to our relationship, (or relational space) since it belongs to both of us 50/50?
How are we doing in our relationship in these areas?
- Emotionally: when we tune into our hearts, how do we feel?
- Physically: how are we doing in the realm of touch, sensuality and sexuality? Are we each happy with where we are?
- Spiritually: what does this one mean to us? Is there an intimate, honouring element to our connection and our closeness?
How are we managing the everyday tasks of life?
What do we need for supporting our relationship journey going forward?
What are our wishes, hopes and dreams for the year ahead? How can we shape some of them in place to enable them to happen?
Create the shape you want!
I’m sending you clear intention and motivation to create the relationship you would both love to have over the next year.
With love
Priya xx