This story is about a real couple and illustrates something that comes up quite frequently in my session room. These are the kinds of phrases I often hear: “She doesn’t really get me or what’s going on for me.” “He’s always immersed in his own stuff… I feel second best.” “I don’t actually feel seen …
Here I am again, having moved a few weeks ago and what a time-consuming thing that is. I haven’t forgotten you, but have been absorbed with juggling storage, painting walls, creating a counselling room and lots more. Phew! At last a little breathing space. I hope you’ve had a good summer, ideally with time to …
Many couples have discovered that when they are feeling disconnected and their relationship is struggling, it doesn’t help matters when life is busy and therapy sessions have to be fitted in within limited times. It can be challenging to re-build the solid foundation needed. A kick-start may be called for! A Couples Bespoke Intensive is …
Spring is in the air and many couples have been talking to me about sex in their relationship or the lack of it. As many of you know, one of my themes is about sex being “the icing on the cake” in a loving, intimate relationship. In fact, sex can even be enhanced by NOT being the thing to …
You may remember this topic and video (which you can view below) from a year ago. Well, it seems to me that it’s an issue that keeps on coming back in the relationship world, and finds it’s way into my couple therapy sessions frequently. “Looking after that very precious relationship of yours, which you have created together, is vital.” …
Hello, dear couples, It’s nearly festivity time with lots of different activities happening and maybe more people around, especially children who perhaps don’t live with you permanently. This video tells the story of a couple in this situation who find themselves getting irritated and then arguing. Often, there is a routine to these unpleasant situations and …
Hello lovely Couple! Feeling criticised by your partner can be a common occurrence and many couples tell me about this, usually feeling it gets in their way of staying in loving connection. It’s a tricky issue. We are all human and life can get fast and busy with our words coming out at speed, especially …
Hello again, My life here in the nicely, old-fashioned, very lovely town of Hythe, Kent, has made me more aware of how I spend my days. “When am I going to see the sea today?” has become an important consideration…perfect for slowing me down. I didn’t move out of North London to keep being very busy, is …
Hello and Welcome to Encounter No. 3 – Conscious Touch This one is easy to describe as it’s a natural follow on when you are feeling emotionally close, warm and connected. It’s about taking the time to honour touch as something special: a giving and receiving. Of course, touch is already in your lives, hopefully …
Hello and Welcome to Encounter No. 2 – Loving Listening When we want to ask our partner to do something that is really important to us, we can all too often not mention it and get resentful if they don’t do it. Or we ask for it at a time that may be mixed up …