Hello there,
I rarely talk here about the fact that I live with ADHD in my life….not in myself directly, but my husband has it and we’ve been married for twenty-one years.
My standard line is “I love him to pieces and he drives me nuts”!!
If you are in this situation, you will probably be nodding right now and thinking “I know that one”.
I always say to the many couples who I see where one of them has ADHD….”If one of you has it, it’s IN your relationship”.
A person with ADHD has a hard time in everyday life. They have a brain that can drive them crazy with its intensive messages and constant distractions. One of my clients called it “my screamy brain”. They are probably very chatty, quite fast-talking, active, perhaps constantly in motion, possibly jumping from one thing to another or perhaps they turned up late for your meeting or got the date wrong!!
And just like most other people, they are funny, wise, creative, spontaneous and often very caring, helpful and loveable…Oh, and never boring!
So, however much you love one another, being in a relationship with all this going on can be very hard as well as very great.
It’s all too easy for a couple to feel they are the only ones coping with this. Often, people don’t understand just how difficult it is to have ADHD or to be living with ADHD unless they are experiencing it themselves.
If you indeed feel you would like to meet other couples in this situation to learn and share, I am running a day for this purpose soon.
A day for couples with ADHD in their relationship:
Do you sometimes feel like you are the only couple grappling with this ADHD thing?
And it can indeed involve quite a lot of grabbling, with its inconsistencies and ups and downs, which really do affect you both on a daily basis.
There are good things too, of course, like love, creativity and spontaneity, but they can all too easily get sabotaged by recurring difficulties.
The good news is: You are NOT alone. Many couples are having similar struggles…..
Come to a Day for Couples with ADHD in Their Relationship at the home of Priya and her husband Bob (who has ADHD!)
DATE Saturday, May 13th 2023
TIME 10am to 4pm
COST £100 per couple
ADDRESS Flat 1, 9 Grimston Gdns, Folkestone, CT20 2PT
(Please bring a dish to share for lunch)
A chance to meet other couples with similar issues.
There will be elements of learning, guidance, sharing and discussion all within a warm and friendly atmosphere. And there’s often plenty of laughter as well.
Plus a few simple exercises for each couple to do with their own partner, in their own space,
You might feel a bit nervous to start with as your relationship feels private to yourselves and you wonder how it will feel to talk to other couples about it.
I can support you both with that, as nobody is expected to do or say anything they are uncomfortable with.
The amazing thing is when couples give it a go, they all tell me how wonderful it is and that they needn’t have worried
It’s even been known for couples to become good friends through meeting at one of these events.
If you would like to come to this event, please let me know ASAP as there are just 4 couples spaces. You can do this by sending an email to priya@priyatourkow.com. Once you are booked you will need to transfer £100 to reserve your space.
I look forward to you joining us
Priya and Bob