Hello again.
Many couples, sadly, are like ships that pass in the night, literally sailing by one another in a rush. Kids off to school, back home, rush to this class or that event etc.
WHOA!…. let’s pause for a moment…..when and how do you manage to hug one another? And if you do actually hug, do you stop and take a look at this partner of yours and hug consciously, or do you kind of do what I call a “sidewinder” hug in passing motion, with your mind and body elsewhere, perhaps on the shopping list or the meeting at work? And maybe you add in a little back-patting of your partner for good measure. By the way, back patting is great for babies but not conducive for grown-ups!
After all, this is your beloved we are talking about here, your partner, the special person in your life. You both need and deserve a hug at least once a day, and ideally much more often. Hugs are good for couples as a way of creating closeness, expressing love and awareness of one another, connecting your bodies, your hearts and maybe even your souls.
Nobody dies of too many hugs as far as I know!
Hugs also create intimacy, a sense of feeling close and bonded. Intimacy is an essential ingredient for sex to come into. Remember, in one of my previous videos, I talk about sex being an entity that needs a foundation of loving connection in order to feel safe enough to come into. If you feel sex is not flowing well in your relationship at this point, I suggest you start focussing on intimacy…..hugs being a great beginning. Feeling sensual and desirous of more may begin to happen when you hug one another with appreciation and openness to what may be sparked off.
So, take a look at my video for hugging tantra style with a beginning, middle and end, going slowly and including a breath or two with one another. Having a basic model for what a hug really is keeps you on track. You can adapt the style on really busy days!
And, just in case you are very visual, take a look at this fun one!! They know how to do it….!
With love to each of you and your relationship, as always
Priya xx
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